Connection of Fate with Parents

I am a firm believer in the concept of fate rewarding life. While hard work is important and planning is a must, I feel a bit of luck is important to color our fate. To me, fate is the effective amalgam of what happens to us as a result of all our actions and beliefs.
Fate, I believe, is both pre-decided and continually being created. The pre-decided part of fate, to most extent, stems from our parents or guardians. As a child, the values I developed stemmed from the environment in which I lived. The most important element of the environment that children experience is from their parents.
The state of one's parents, the material possessions they have, the emotional balance they maintain and the cumulative happiness they share decide the net environment at home. The value-system and the aspiration-index of a family are also defined likewise. As a child, I had like any other child, but limited choice in setting the agenda. My initial growth and development were not really in my control. My tears, as much as my laughter, were a result of my parent's attitude, their limitations, fears and concerns. To some extent those initial days stoned my character - optimistic in public and critically evaluative and terribly bore in private.
When I recall my childhood and as I try to experience the pleasures and pain of growing children, it becomes evident to me that the ambitions which a child develops are often a reaction to the inspiration and dejection experienced in early childhood. By the time, a person realizes what he or she wants, fate seems to have turned a stone. An illusion dawns that one has turned too old to change - at-least the innermost joys and concerns have bonded the basic framework of one's character. Sometimes, I think, this is caused by a choice-less birth in a family entrapped in its own story.
In retrospection, I think, the only way I can change my fate is by going forward and positively participating in the fate of my own children and the people who value my opinion. In return, I guess, as gratitude, my fate shall move my way.