Irritants-The Uncensored Grief

If you think that you have grievances against the other person, then remember that the other person also has grievances against you. You cannot just run away, hiding your soul and dirtying your tongue by blaming the other person for what you conceive are his faults. You have to grow up one day and acknowledge the faults within yourself.
If you seriously want to forget an episode, you need to take control over the mess that your interpretations of the episode have created. The best way to make peace with your people is to enliven stranded relations. Start by proving that you care and understand. Do not get back to the waiting game assuming that the other person should start the initiative. You may lose valuable moments that you could use otherwise. What is even more important is that you will also lose that invisible entity called peace with self.
The best way to re-ignite any bond is to initiate the proceedings. Do so without losing self-respect and do so for your own sake. You have got to spare yourself of needless suffering. Once you decide to cure strained relations, start moving. Propose change for mutual benefit. Forget the episode and forgive the transaction. The person, after-all is higher and greater than any lowly transaction.
However to enliven a strained past, you need to make a great stand and that is to change yourself. Fortunately that change is not costly. All you need to do is to remove that small irritant about the other person being the reason of fault. Give the other person a chance to understand your stand and, in process, try to comprehend what forced the other person to do what you think was wrong.
Hopefully, the other person will change and listen to music. If not, the other person is not worth considering companionship. Stones are not meant to be garlanded!